There’s no one-size-fits-all method to guarantee complete fulfillment of erotic desire, whether in broad terms or specific situations. Any promise of such an outcome is inherently deceptive.
Erotic desire is an intensely personal and subjective experience. What we can assert is that shibari does offer a unique pathway to explore individual erotic desire.
In this lesson, we will examine the mechanisms and the tools erotic shibari provides to navigate and manage this exploration.
Eroticization is the process of turning something we don’t typically consider erotic into something that is. This could be a part of the body, a situation, or even a person.
In this class, we’ll explore tools for managing emotions during an erotic shibari encounter.
We’ll choose the management tools during the session based on the person being tied, which requires both of us to be fully aware of the nature of our desire.
A common mistake is confusing the concepts of satisfying with pleasing. When this happens in the context of an erotic dynamic within a relationship, it can lead to certain risks
The "Desire Diagram" of sekibaku outlines the sequence to follow so that the person being tied can delve deeper into their desires. We represent it using a pentagram inspired by the cycles of creation and destruction in Eastern cultures.
The first concept we must be clear about when referring to restraint in shibari is that restraint is carried out with the body, not with the ropes.